Question:
My mother has a 6-year-old male French bulldog. For the past two or three years, she has lived alone. Owing to a physical disability (COPD), she isn't able to take him on walks but does let him get some air and do his business in the backyard. She gives him nothing but love and affection, and they seem to be inseparable. This all changes when I (or my niece) go to visit. When my 13-year-old niece comes over, the dog clings to her all the time. If my mother calls to him and tells him to come, he just stares at her and doesn't go over to her. Why does he become so cold to the hand that feeds him? What happened to his loyalty? It hurts my mother's feelings.
J.M., Arlington, Va Apr 25, 2010
Answer:
Perhaps the dog is craving the affection and companionship of a more active, lively human who takes him out for walks and long romps. Or maybe he senses that your mother is fading away and may soon be hospitalized with her COPD. I hope that you are prepared to take her beloved dog when the time comes.
The dog is not being disloyal. He may be showing your mother how much he loves your company and your niece's. Your mother should celebrate that.
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